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Euthanasia: How I decided it was time to Let Go

As you know, I was a cat mom to my precious furballs, Precious and Dusty. Precious happened to pass away on her own in my arms however Dusty was a different story. If you are a pet parent dealing with a terminal illness your pet is battling, you may need to consider euthanasia. I’m an eternal optimist; however, I’m also a realist. Miracles do happen, and I do believe in the power of prayer however, I also firmly believe when your number is up, it’s time to go. I wrote a previous blog post about my experience regarding finding out about Dusty’s terminal illness called The Phone Call That Changed My Life.

In this post, I’m going to tell you about my experience considering euthanasia for my pet. Here are some of the factors I considered before having Dusty put down. You may find that this list may help you in your own decision-making process to see what’s right for you and your pet.

I discovered Dusty had a tumor by her thyroid and was told it was inoperable by my vet. Well, after the initial shock, I went into mommy mode. I had to get all the information, look at all my options, and do what was best for my pumpkin.

Here are factors I had to consider.

Second Opinion

I had a very good veterinarian and was always happy with their service and friendliness. However, when I was told they were not comfortable operating on Dusty since the tumor position was in the midst of vital arteries, I felt that answer was not good enough. I had to get another opinion. After doing an internet search and reading reviews, I found another veterinarian that was well-respected in the community and had decades of good reviews and trust from other happy, satisfied patients.

Dusty, my husband, and I went to visit the second vet and felt optimistic because he was able to tell in 30 seconds, “Yep. It’s a tumor on her thyroid.” He reviewed my vet’s records and actually gave them praise for their detail and reputable staff. However, they were not willing to do what he was. So I asked him, “I was told it’s inoperable. Is that certain? Can you remove it?” He said, “Yes. I think so. The cost will be about …”

Cost

“The cost will be about $2000…” The news was bittersweet. I was overjoyed that she could have her tumor removed, but $2000 was money I didn’t expect to spend, let alone have. I was about to charge it! Until he added, “…and then after surgery, we’ll need to have her on chemo treatments, and testing and follow up…all for additional costs of course. The receptionist can work up some numbers for you or take time to think about it this week.”

After hearing the cost, I could understand and relate to people who say they just cannot afford to pay. I was willing to charge my Visa however, what halted my decision to move forward was having Dusty on chemo, dragging out the suffering. I started to wonder, at what cost? Would this end up being a means to an end? She was a senior cat at this point, and I needed to really give this some thought.

Type of illness and treatment options

Along with the cost, I had to consider her treatment options. Before visiting the vet for a second opinion I had already searched online for holistic treatments and nutrients for my cat online. I had ordered holistic treatments for cancer, and Dusty seemed to perk up and respond well energy wise however the tumor continued to grow. Now, considering this second vet’s option of surgery sounded good however, there was no guarantee at her age as a senior she’d do well under anesthesia. Also, the prospect of immediately having her do chemotherapy appointments seemed like torture on her little petite frame.

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Age

When deciding on whether or not to go forward with euthanasia, there is also the issue of age to consider. Dusty was 13 ½ years old, almost going to be 14 years old. She was battling cancer, and her weight was reduced to 5.5 pounds at one point. She was nothing but bones and fur. I didn’t think she was strong enough to handle surgery and chemo, so I decided to get a fresh perspective.

I searched online for stories and testimonies of pet parents who were going through the same ordeal. After reading several blogs and testimonials from other pet parents who went forward with surgery with their older pets, it was saddening to know so many testimonies included stories of pets being in a lot of pain afterward, getting infections, or dying after surgery from complications. I thought to myself, “Would I just be fighting to spare extra time at this point? She is almost 14 years old. It’s easier for a younger pet to recover from surgery vs. an older pet” I didn’t want to be selfish and have her suffer unnecessarily just so I could have more time with her. So then I had to think of the quality of life.

Consider basic ability to function (bathroom, eating, breathing, pain)

When faced with all these factors, one of the most important ones that helped me make a decision about moving forward with euthanasia was quality of life! Can your pet use the bathroom? Are they still eating and drinking water regularly? Do they have problems breathing? Do they appear in pain?

As a few weeks passed, I could tell her condition had worsened. Dusty started getting more lethargic. And her tumor continued to grow on the side of her throat.  Ironically the steroid medication I had been giving her from my vet kept her blood count number steady, and she started to gain a little weight by Christmas. However, right after the New Year, she took a turn for the worst and didn’t eat as much. She appeared uncomfortable, and then two days before she passed, you could hear her labored breathing. Dusty looked like it took all her energy to breathe comfortably. She also did not use the restroom the whole day before she passed and spent most of her last hours in her favorite spot in her kitty condo, where she felt most comfortable.

Role reversal

One of the other things I had to do is some self-reflection. If it was me in that position, would I want quality of life or just to exist? I knew my answer. And knowing Dusty’s vibrant loveable nature, she’d want quality over quantity of days, hands down.

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Euthanasia

People say, “When it comes to euthanasia and your pet, you’ll know when it’s time.” I was never quite sure until it happened to me. After all these things considered, I knew my time was almost up with Dusty, especially since her breathing was now labored and she wasn’t eating. You know in your gut. It’s instinctual. The following day as my husband was petting Dusty and checking on her, she started to have coughing and gagging reflexes. She couldn’t stop, and I tried to pet and console her.

Something in my gut let me know, “She’s going. It’s time.” We called our 24 hr emergency vet and took her to urgent care. In less than 30 minutes, we were in urgent care. The compassionate vet took a look at her and took her vitals, and his prognosis confirmed what we already knew; she was crashing. It was time. The time had come for Dusty to make her transition to a better place of no pain.

Last Words

The doctor left the room so we could say our goodbyes. I remember whispering in her ear and telling her “Dusty, I told you we would make sure you wouldn’t have to suffer and give you the best quality of life. I love you. Now fly free.” I could see one last time the flicker of light in her eyes.

That evening was heart-wrenching and difficult, but I know euthanasia was the right choice, for she was no longer in pain and discomfort. She was now free. We miss her every day as she was one of the family but never forgotten. As painful as it is to lose a beloved pet, you never regret one moment you’ve spent on Earth with them.

I hope sharing my experience helps you, or someone you know, currently deciding if euthanasia is right for them. We, as pet parents, want the best for our fur babies and sometimes the best thing we can do for them is show the greatest act of love by learning to let go.

Have you ever dealt with the decision to euthanize your pet? What tips would you add?

Comment and share below.

Post originally published March 2017. Updated October 2021.

20 Comments

  • Emily Jane Jones

    Thank you for sharing your experience, I know your post will help a lot of people ! You could write a follow on post on dealing with the grief afterwards – those days and months after I found very hard and I was always worried that people would tell me that ‘she was only a dog’ and ‘time to get over it’ – things like – can you take time off work for grief, when is it time to talk to a professional, what is normal in the grieving process – just an idea xxx

    • Kamira Gayle

      Hi Emily,
      Thank you for the tips and the thoughtful comment. Yes! I know what you mean. You should check out some of my other posts here
      https://impurrfectlife.com/category/pets/pet-loss/page/2/
      OR click on the Pets > Pet Loss tab above. I have previously written about my experience about how I handled grief after, stages of grief, what to do after losing a pet and also a nice guest post featured called 12 things I wish I’d known about Grief by PetRest. Check them out. You may find them helpful.

  • Barbara Rivers

    You wrote this post beautifully. The tears in my eyes are proof. I have never had to make that decision as I’m a first time pet owner, but I have had to go through my pup Missy’s cancer treatment (thank goodness with medical doggie insurance who paid for 90% of her treatment).

    Thankfully (yet shockingly) she was diagnosed at an early age, the tumor was removable, and she underwent 4 chemo treatments as a preventative measure. 2 years later, the cancer hasn’t come back, and I’m sure the many lifestyle changes I implemented had something to do with it (first and foremost, I switched her diet from kibble to raw food).

    Having said all that, I would make the same decision you made if her quality of life would be poor. I wouldn’t want her to simply stay alive without being able to enjoy it. So I applaud you for your choice and send you lots of positive energy. I’m glad I found your blog and will check back often 🙂

    • Kamira Gayle

      Barbara,
      Thank you so much for the kind compassionate words and glad you found my blog. I’m very happy to hear that your dog Missy beat cancer and remains cancer free today! Yeay! I also applaud you on making lifestyle changes with food. It does make a difference. I wish you continued good health for you and your dog Missy. 🙂

  • Jon Baily

    Kamira,

    This is a very touching account of your experiences. Thank you for sharing as I am sure that this will help other pet owners facing the same difficult decision on if and when to say goodbye to a beloved pet.

    Jon

  • Nikki

    I think the moment in the post that hit me the most was when you said you just “knew”. I feel like that is what happened for us as well. There is a point where you understand it’s coming – but your gut says it’s not exactly time yet – then almost like a switch, things change and you just “know”. It’s never easy – but I feel like it’s the right decision when the time comes. It can truly be the last gift we can give to our pets.

  • Ruth Epstein

    I am so sorry but Dusty knew when it was time and told you, I believe in euthenazia. When Baby went into a coma from IMHA and the vet told me she could have blood transfusions to keep her alive, it was not so much the money but the thought of her suffering and I felt it would be selfish on my part so I held her in my arms, sang to her and let her cross over the rainbow bridge. It was heartbreaking, something inside me died, but I knew in my heart it was the right thing to do.

    • Admin

      Ruth,
      I believe it too. Dusty knew better than I did. Baby was so fortunate to have you as a mom and I’m so glad for you both she lived to see you finally be free and safe. I understand what you mean about a piece of you dies that day. Sending hugs! Thanks for sharing your personal experience too.

  • Terri

    Dusty was so lucky to have you as her mama. What a beautiful life you gave her and she shared with you and your husband. I know it’s never easy to say good-bye. Thank you for bravely sharing your experiences with Dusty. She’d be proud of you.

  • Marjorie at Dash Kitten

    What a helpful post. You cover all the things we think about, need to know, and the things we must accept when the time comes. I know Dusty had the best Mom in the world in you and you did the right thing.

    Sometimes the extra time just isn’t worth it is it? I would not inflict suffering on my cats. Our Sooty had leukaemia and we took her to the hospital and everything but I wouldn’t do that now.

  • Britt K

    This is one of the most difficult decisions that we will make as pet owners, but it’s also one of the most beautiful gifts that we can give our pets. I recently heard a rule of 3 that I really liked and will be following moving forward with our pets. It said that you should take note of your pet’s 3 favourite activities/things to do and watch for when they can no longer do them/enjoy them. When that enjoyment is lost, it’s a clear sign that they are starting to experience a decrease in their quality of life. It could be that they can no longer play with their favourite toy or something like that.

    • Admin

      Britt,
      Oh I have not heard that rule of 3 before but I think that’s a great tip to be aware of and monitor their quality of life. Thanks for sharing this helpful insight.