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Grief,  Pets

5 Reasons why losing a pet is harder than losing a human

At the beginning of this year, I asked for help from my readers and posed a question on my Facebook page. ” Is experiencing the death of a pet more painful than losing a human?” After scouring the internet and receiving feedback from readers, I realized the answer to this question is not so cut and dry.

Experiencing the death of a beloved pet can be one of the most devastating events in a pet owner’s life. In fact, some people find it more challenging to cope with the loss of a pet than a human loved one. While this may seem absurd to some, there are several reasons why this is the case. I asked, and you answered. Let’s dive into why losing a pet is harder than losing a human.

1. They are more than a pet.

First and foremost, pets often hold a unique place in our lives. They are often seen as members of the family, and for many people, they are the closest companions they have. Pets are often there for us in ways that other humans cannot be. For some people, pets are not only family but the sole source of love and support when blood relatives are estranged or not supportive.

Our pets are always there to comfort and listen to us and offer unconditional love and support. They don’t judge us, they don’t hold grudges, and they are always happy to see us, no matter what. This bond is strong like a diamond; losing it can be devastating.

2. Pets provide a deeper bond.

Another reason why the death of a pet can be more challenging to cope with than the death of a human is that our relationship with our pets is often very different from our relationships with other humans. Pets are often our constant companions, providing us with a sense of stability and routine. They are always there for us, and their love and affection are unwavering.

Unlike a bond with a pet, human relationships often come with conditions. Human beings have been known to start fights and wars based on differing opinions and beliefs, yet a pet’s love and loyalty remain constant. They accept us humans, flaws and all. In contrast, our relationships with people can be more complex and often come with challenges.

3. Pets inspire us and give us purpose.

In addition, pets often provide us with a sense of purpose and meaning in our lives. They give us a reason to get up in the morning. Whether we are inspired to find more time to exercise, play, or engage in activities that we might not otherwise, pets encourage us to take full advantage of every day.

Pets teach us what it means to live a whole life and not take our time for granted. They bring us joy and happiness and give us a sense of responsibility and purpose. So it’s easy to see why losing a pet can leave such a big void in our lives and be incredibly difficult to fill.

4. Pets show unconditional love and innocence.

Furthermore, pets are often seen as innocent and pure beings, free from the complications and troubles of the human world. They are not likely to make decisions that will result in their demise or harm. The death of a pet can feel particularly unfair and unjust.

Additionally, pets are often seen as vulnerable and in need of our protection, similar to young children, which can lead to feelings of guilt and self-blame when they pass away.

5. Losing a pet is personal.

Finally, the death of a pet can be particularly difficult because it is often a very personal and private experience. Unlike the death of a human loved one, which may be shared and mourned with a larger community, the individual owner often feels the loss of a pet most intensely. This can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness and a sense that others do not understand the depth of the owner’s grief.

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Responses from the community

When I asked for insight and opinions of fellow pet parents about this topic, here is what they had to say. Can you relate?

Conclusion

In conclusion, while the death of a loved one is undoubtedly a difficult and painful experience, for many pet parents losing a pet is harder than losing a human.

I know In my life, I have found this to be true. Essentially, each circumstance differs. And it really depends on the depth of the relationship shared with your pet compared to the bond shared with a particular individual.

Pets hold a unique place in our lives and offer us companionship, love, and support in ways other humans often cannot. They give us a sense of purpose and meaning, and their loss can leave a significant void in our lives.

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Furthermore, their innocence and vulnerability can make their deaths feel unfair and unjust. Ultimately, the death of a pet is a deeply personal and private experience, and it is essential for pet parents and loved ones to be patient and compassionate with themselves as they navigate the grieving process.

Share your thoughts and leave a comment below. Do you believe losing a pet is harder than losing a human?

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10 Comments

  • Terri

    Terrific article with great insight! I love that you researched it with us, your readers, and then provided the results. So, enlightening to know that what we feel is absolutely normal. Sometimes that’s helpful. Just to know that what you’re feeling is normal or that this is no right or wrong way to feel. I’m always impressed with how you provide such great information, Kamira! I’m sharing this with all my dog parents.

    • Admin

      Terri,
      Thank you so much for providing your insight and sharing! I appreciate you all and yes, it’s my mission to let other pet parents feel validated in their feelings and understand they are not alone.

  • Cathy Armato

    This is so beautifully written Kamira. I do believe that losing a pet can sometimes be more devastating than losing a human – I think it’s depends on the human though, and how much they were a part of one’s daily life. I’ve lost beloved relatives, but losiing my dog was even worse because of the place she held in my life and in my heart.

      • Ruth Epstein

        Fantastic article and I think one of the reasons is we put so much of our life into their health and happiness and receive in return unconditional love hat it is is hard when they cross the Rainbow Bridge as the house and your heart becomes empty

  • Marjorie Dawson

    Losing a pet is as bad if not worse. They can be taken from you so fast and leave you devastated.

  • Dorothy "FiveSibesMom"

    Kamira, such a deep, touching post. And thank you for including our thoughts and feelings on this subject. I also want to add that losing a pet is harder at times because they are usually who we go to when we are sad, and without them, we have to face our grief alone/without them, and that is so hard. Great post, sharing with my fellow pet lovers. xo